Dear Massi, There is a guy at college that I like.

He told his friend to tell his sister to let me know he likes me. He then sent a letter to me through the friend’s sister to ask me to marry him.

I like the way he was being so religious about it.

I was showing my friends at college the letter.

One of my friend’s told me she had received the exact same letter from the same guy!

She took it out and showed to me.

I don’t know if he wants both of us or just wants a back up if one of us says no.

My friend said she got the letter first so I should back off.

Another friend said he’s not interested in either of us, he’s just a player.

We said she’s jealous as she never got a proposal. None of us are really talking now. Can you help?

Massi says, Rather than bickering amongst yourselves and blaming each other, look at the common denominator.

This man has not been honest with his intentions by sending both of you a letter to indicate a proposal of marriage.

Don’t let this man divide your friendship.

Instead of this conflict, join forces.

If sending a letter is the preferred method of communication, send him a joint letter from both you and your friend and let him know in no uncertain terms that he has been caught out and that marriage proposals cannot be sent out flippantly to multiple people.