Dear Massi, Before I got engaged, me and my fiance were going out for over two years.

But I am seeing a different side to him since we got engaged.

I never realised he was such a mummy's boy.

Every time he calls me when he is at home, he puts his mum on the phone. 

At our engagement, I saw his mum feeding him roti with her own hands. 

But the worst part of the engagement was the ring. His mum picked it out, even though I specifically told him which one I wanted. 

My engagement ring is so ugly.

And to add insult to injury, he didn't even put the ring on my finger, his mum did.

I just don't like him anymore since the engagement.

After he told me his mum wants me to wear her wedding dress from 40 years ago, I was so angry that I threw my engagement ring away and pretended I had lost it. 

I bought a new one myself and sent him the receipt.

I feel like my life is going to be a marriage with him and his mum.

I'm really resenting him now, but I don't know what to do.

Massi says, Marriage is a commitment that requires patience and compromise.

Life whilst dating will no doubt me more carefree than after the engagement.

It is understandable that you are unhappy about your engagement ring. However, throwing it away and lying about it is not the solution.

Your fiance's bond with his mother is not something that should make you feel insecure.

However, if you feel that your relationship has changed and you are not happy with it, it is better to talk about this with your fiance now rather than allowing the resentment to build up.

Talk to your fiance candidly about your concerns so you can both be aware of how each other feels.