Dear Massi, Me and my wife have been married for four years.

She's 30 and I'm 38. I don't want to be an 'old dad' and I really want to start a family.

My wife has been refusing since we got married.

I respected her wish to get her career up and running, but in the last 2 years she has stopped working and spends all her time posting selfies on Instagram trying to promote herself as a makeup artist. 

She has only had two clients, both of which were her cousins. 

When I spoke to her about planning a baby, she said no again and said that pregnancy would ruin her figure.

It's the most lame argument she has used. I don't know what to do. 

I feel this issue is making me realise how little we have in common.

What should I do next?

Massi says, Having a baby is a joint decision, one that both of you have to be ready for. 

Although your wife's reasoning may seem 'lame' to you, there may be a more profound reason for her hesitancy. 

Talk to your wife and ask her if she has any fears about pregnancy. 

There are other options available to you both such as adoption or fostering.

However, if you are questioning your compatibility and your relationship as a whole, perhaps it is time to talk about what you both want out of your marriage.

You may be find that speaking to a marriage counsellor could be a beneficial tool. 

Speak to your GP who will guide you about counselling.