Dear Massi,  I have seen a new side to my husband since I started working.

He has become really insecure because I have male colleagues. 
I generally avoid work dinners because I know how he will react but sometimes I have to go on work lunches.

On one occasion he even sent his cousin to check I wasn’t alone with my boss at the lunch. 

There were three of us with our client. He said he doesn’t want me shaking hands with any men. When I told him that was ridiculous, he called me a ‘randi’.  He’s making my life a nightmare. 

I really don’t know what to do. 

Massi says, Your husband has put you in a very uncomfortable dilemma.

His insecurity has stemmed from nothing but his own paranoia.
You will need to talk to him. Explain that this should not be an argument but rather, a candid conversation.

You have been transparent about your work and the people you interact with. 

Tell him that his constant mistrust of you and the unnecessary name calling is affecting your relationship with him and is pushing you away. 

Reassure him that you love him and that adhering to work etiquette should not impact on your relationship.