Dear Massi, I'm kind of stuck and not sure how to handle this matter.

It is Ramadan as you know and actually, it is my first Ramadan with my wife.

We got married two months ago.

I have noticed a bit of tension between my wife and my sisters and parents, but I thought it will just take time for them to understand each other.

We had my family over for iftari, but my wife didn't cook any fresh food and only served them leftovers. 

My sister even complained to me that the soap in the bathroom was really watery like it had been diluted with water.

My wife just shrugged it off and said Ramadan is all about being modest and not spending excessively.

I honestly would have left the matter at that.

But a few days later my in-laws came round for iftari and this time my wife ordered food in, even the starters and dessert.

I know this will sound petty but there was new soap, one of those expensive Molton Brown ones, in the bathroom.

I don't like this hypocrisy but I also hate arguing, especially in Ramadan where I really don't have the energy for this kind of argument.

Massi says ,There seems to be a disparity in how your respective families are being received in your home.

Talk to your wife and explain that your family should be made to feel as welcome in your home as her family.

Explain that you would provide the same standard of care for her family that you would for yours, so it is only natural to expect her to reciprocate.

As much as you want to avoid an arguement, your wife will not know how this has affected you if you don't express your thoughts clearly to her.

She may not have  envisaged that her actions would have hurt your feelings.

Talk to her directly to resolve the issue.