Moving out of the bedroom was a joint decision. It was convenience really. The new baby woke up a lot at night and my husband has very early working hours.

It was only meant to be for a few weeks, until the baby got settled into a routine.

That turned into months .

It has now been two years.

He has gotten comfortable with having his own space and so have I.

We don’t talk about it as it has become the norm.

My mum found out when she visited.

She got really angry and warned me that this kind of separation was pushing him away and that if my marriage was in trouble it would be my own fault.

Up until then I wasn’t worried about his needs. This system just kind of works for us.

We haven’t any kind of physical relationship since I moved out of the bedroom but we get on really well, probably like a platonic type thing.

And I love that he makes no demands from me and has no expectations in that area.

I don’t want to start being paranoid but I have started to feel scared that he might cheat on me if we’re not intimate.

But at the same time, I don’t want to bring it up as I don’t really want to start sleeping with him again.

I know it’s selfish- I want his loyalty but I don’t want to sleep with him.

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