Dear Massi, I just got engaged and have booked a photographer for a really special photo shoot to mark the occasion.

This is costing a lot of money so I want it to be perfect. Our parents are going to be in the photo shoot too.

The problem I have is that my fiance has two sisters who also want to be involved.

I don’t want them in the pictures because they are too fat and they will ruin my pictures.

I know it sounds really mean, but it’s my engagement and if I don’t want them in the pictures then I should not have them.

Aesthetics are really important to me for the photos and we are going to a lovely venue to have the pictures taken so I can share them on Instagram.

I am certain that people will laugh at me and make comments about my sister-in-laws. I can’t take that.

His sisters are planning on wearing these bright, ugly matching outfits which really do them no favours and make them look even bigger than they already are.

I don’t know what to say or do as my fiance is paying for this and I don’t want to hurt his feelings or he might just cancel the whole thing.

Massi says: An engagement is of course a key moment in your life and a special occasion.

A marriage entails getting to know a new family and building relations with them.

Shunning your two future sister-in-laws because you don’t approve of their physique is very unfair, unnecessarily harsh and not nice at all.

They appear to have shown great enthusiasm in wanting to be a part of your celebrations.

Trying to deter their involvement could have damaging effects on your relationship with your fiance and your future in-laws.
A marriage is not simply about capturing the perfect photo to post on social media.

Put yourself in their shoes first and ask yourself how you would feel if you were excluded from a special occasion on account of your appearance?

Put your emphasis less on their body shape but more on your compatibility with them.

Try and enjoy this special moment in your life with both your families together.