Dear Massi, I have been introduced to a man through my family. We’re both a bit older. He is 45 and I am 39.

We went to dinner to get to know each other better.

Before we had even ordered he asked me if I knew anything about older women having problems conceiving and how soon I thought I could get pregnant after marriage.

I was shocked at how forward and clinical he was about this. But I was even more shocked by his table manners. 

He ordered spaghetti but he ate the bolognese part with his hands, using the spaghetti like rotee.

The sauce splattered all over his beard, his shirt and he chewed with his mouth open.

While we were looking at the dessert menu he said there some meat stuck in his teeth and asked to borrow my hair pin to take it out.

The whole episode made me feel sick and disgusted but I feel I am running out of options with meeting eligible men because of my age.

Should I give him another chance?

Massi Says, Getting to know someone for the purpose of marriage is not always a smooth sailing process.

In this case it was beneficial for you both to get to know each other’s interests.
Whilst it will always take more than one dinner date to get to know someone properly, a meeting of this nature can give you an indication about potential compatibility.

You have made it clear that this man is not someone who interests you.
Try not to feel disheartened or under pressure to marry someone simply because you feel your age is the main factor.

If you are still unsure about this man, perhaps try meeting him one more time to allay your concerns.

However, if you still feel that his mannerisms and conversation are unpalatable, then let him know politely and move one.

Getting married because you think you are running out of time is not something that will form the foundation of a strong marriage.