This was the stark warning issued by the devastated father of one of the three school friends from Bethnal Green who disappeared to join Islamic State almost three years ago to this day.
The disappearance of these young girls laid bare the fact that while rare, radicalisers could successfully use the internet to recruit and groom vulnerable young people – brainwashing them into leaving their families behind for an unknown fate.
Of course, the internet has incredible benefits, improving education and helping us stay connected with family and friends. But the disappearance of the girls forced the world to open their eyes and witness a more sinister side of radicalisation, one which continues to be exposed to this day.
Cyberbullying, grooming and inappropriate content such as terrorist activity or hate speech, are just a few of the problems that children might be faced with during their time online.
Today marks Safer Internet Day, which aims to promote the safe and positive use of digital technology, sparking an international conversation with more than 100 countries involved. 

I want to challenge readers of Asian Image to do the same in order to reduce the risk posed by those looking to cause harm online. 

Safer Internet Day presents us with a time to consider the many ways we can curb any concerns.
Whilst companies like YouTube and Facebook have a responsibility to keep the internet safe, we as parents or carers also have a key role to play in helping our children to stay safe online. 

For us, it’s more about communication than it is about computer know-how; which helps when considering the scary fact that our children often know more about the internet than we do.
An immediate step you can take (which as a grandmother I will be setting up now that I know how!), is changing your privacy settings. 

This gives you the ability to filter content that children are able to see, reducing the likelihood of them viewing inappropriate content or from accessing sites you are not comfortable with them seeing. To do this I used the NSPCC’s easy to follow instructions.
Another important step is ensuring children develop their critical thinking skills as they grow up. Encourage them to question things, ensure they know how to listen to both sides of an argument and to view things from another perspective. 
Talk as a family to agree on apps and websites that are appropriate and explore those sites together. 

Show your children how to update their own privacy settings, as it’s important that they also know how to protect themselves. 

Conversations like these are so important, and are ones I regularly have with mothers attending my FAST workshops, which are aimed at talking about concerns regarding radicalisation.
Like groomers, radicalisers aim to manipulate their victims to refuse the influence of family members. 

Having worked with siblings of individuals who have sadly joined Islamist terror organisations, I’ve witnessed the harrowing effects of online grooming first hand. 

This taught me the importance of having these conversations before it’s too late, and the earlier you start talking to young people about their life online the better. 
There’s no hard and fast rule of what to look out for, and some behaviours may seem like regular teenage traits.  

But if you’ve noticed your child hiding their internet habits, changing their circle of friends online and offline, it might be that there’s something wrong. Rather than brush it off and ignore it, it’s best to check everything is alright.
The response to the threat of online extremism is often mounting pressure on internet providers.  

Parallel to this I believe there is an important role for us as individuals, parents, friends and community members to play our part in protecting our loved ones online. 
Whilst I’m not suggesting we should or can watch their every move, it seems pertinent given today’s occasion, to encourage more openness with our children, the same sort of openness that the internet itself has allowed around the world. 

As the internet becomes more entrenched in our lives, we must take steps online, in the same way that we do offline, to ensure our homes are safe places to grow up.
For online safety tips visit NSPCC
If you have concerns about a loved one that might be affected, you may want to raise the issue with someone you trust, perhaps a friend of family member who knows them well. 

Saleha Jaffer is the founder of an organisation called Families Against Stress and Trauma (FAST) and an elected councillor for Lambeth.