Dear Massi, I’m stuck in the middle of a stupid fight between my husband and my brother.

They always try to outdo each other and are always competing against each other.

My brother turned up at my house one evening uninvited.

I was in the kitchen and could hear a heated conversation.

I came into the room quickly and found my brother was saying he earns more money than my husband and that my husband should man up and make more money.

The next thing I know, my husband spat at my brother.

I quickly got in the middle of them before a fight broke out and told my brother to leave the house.

Things have been so tense since that day, I don’t know what to do.

Can you help?

Massi says: Both your husband and your brother have put you in an incredibly difficult and unfair position. 

You simply cannot keep playing the role of mediator between them.

The incident that took place does not concern you, yet you have inadvertently become trapped in the middle.

It seems as though both men are more concerned with their pride and are not concerned how this will affect you.

Talk to both your husband and your brother.

Tell them clearly that you love them both but their actions are leaving you drained emotionally.

Explain that this matter must be concluded swiftly otherwise it will adversely affect your relationship with them both.