Dear Massi, I have been using chat rooms for a while. I met a guy who promised to marry me. 

We met and were intimate. 

I then found out he was seeing three other women from the same chat room. 

I am going out my mind as I gave myself to this man under false pretences. 

Now he messages me all day giving me abuse since I confronted him. 

Please help, what can I do?

Massi says, The first thing to do is block this man on all communication forums.

It is clear that the intentions of this man were never to engage in a serious relationship. 

Whether he is in the chat room for the purpose of boosting his ego or to keep his options open, it is a negative reflection of his personality. 

The fact that he is now turning on you in a belligerent way seems to be a defensive action in response to being caught out. 

Your intentions were sincere and it is unfortunate that this man did not reciprocate.

It is natural that you are feeling hurt by his actions.

In future, if you do decide to use an online chat room, protecting yourself so you are not vulnerable should be a priority.

Do not give out personal information and avoid meeting up in person as much as possible.

If you do decide to meet up after you feel you have established a connection, bring a friend with you so you feel safe.

Make sure you take your time to get to know the individual as much as possible before taking the relationship to the next stage.

Never allow yourself to feel pressured into a physical relationship. You must protect yourself first.