Dear Massi, I have been married a few months and it feels like my wife is using me for my money.

She doesn’t come from a wealthy family.

She doesn’t work which I don’t mind, but I expect her to be sensible with my money.

Lately she spent £90 on a candle, £400 on shoes which she then complained were too uncomfortable to wear.

She orders takeaway five times a week.

She’s always taking her sisters and their kids out for lunch and she uses my credit card every time.

I don’t know how to deal with this.

Massi says, Your wife may not be aware of how much money she is spending.

Talk to her and show her the bank statement so she can see what her expenses have amounted to.

Discuss a suitable budget that is feasible so that your finances can be managed.