Dear Massi, I agreed to go out for dinner with a man who my mum set me up with through this local aunty who is a matchmaker.

He was 10 minutes late arriving and didn’t even apologise.

When we looked at the menu, he told me not to order anything over £10. 

I still thought I should give him a chance because my mum was so keen for me to talk to him.

Over dinner he told me how many female friends he has on social media and that it didn’t matter that he doesn’t know them very well, but it made him look good in front of his friends.

He then said if we were to go forward as a couple, I would have to remove all my male contacts on my Facebook page as he had checked it before meeting me.

I was so shocked at his behaviour and now the rishta aunty is asking me for my number to pass onto him.

I don’t know what to do?

Massi says, This man showed you no respect from the moment he arrived at your meeting.

As well as dictating what you cannot eat, his double standards over social media reveal a controlling side to his personality. 

You have discovered enough from one meeting to understand that this man is not a suitable match for you.

You are under no obligation to meet him again.

Explain politely to the women who is the mediator that you see no future with him and that you do not wish to communicate with him any further.