Dear Massi, My husband has become very religious recently. I support him and I do think it's a positive change for him.

He used to spend his Friday and Saturday night's smoking weed with his friends and that is really quite pathetic for a man in his 40s.

He has found religion and it has made him a better father and husband.

But there is a time and a place.

He accompanied me to a work dinner and he wore his jubba.

I don't think that is suitable clothing for a work dinner. Then he ate the meal with his hands.

It was so embarrassing. 

I have a very good image at work, but my husband acting like a traditional person with no etiquette will damage my profile.

He says I am over-reacting and that I should accept him the way he is and that he doesn't need to impress my work.

I don't know what to do.

Massi says, You began the letter by extolling your husband's changes. 

Then you criticised them when you thought it would affect your work persona.

If your husband has made changes that have affected you and your family positively, and if you claim to support him, then you must demonstrate that in all facets of your life, not just at home. 

His clothing choice or manner of eating is not a negative personality trait. It is his personal choice. 

Being so critical about this is rather harsh and will create unnecessary tension between you.

Being supportive means embracing your husband's changes, even if you don't agree with them.