Dear Massi, My mum has a new mobile phone and she is still learning how to use it.

She asked me how to take a selfie-I didn’t even know she knew that word.

Then when I asked her who she was sending it to, she changed the subject.

Now I have noticed any time I come into the room when she is on her phone, she turns her phone over.

My mum has been a widow for about 5 years, but I can’t ever think it is appropriate for her to be getting friendly with another man.

I don’t feel comfortable checking her phone but I want to know what is going on.
She just told me she is going on holiday to Dubai. 

When I asked her who she was going with, she was really vague and said it was with friends I didn’t know and she wouldn’t give me any names.

Now I think Dubai is a decoy and she actually going somewhere else.
I don’t know how to deal with these changes.

Massi says, It is understandable that you are surprised to see changes in your mother’s behaviour, but you have to allow her space to get on with her life.

She has been alone for five years and if she is making new friends, male or female, you should be happy for her.

With all your scrutiny, it is no wonder your mother chooses to conceal things from you.

Let her get on with her life without judgement and you may find your mother is more forthcoming with sharing details with you.