Dear Massi, There is a wedding coming up of the daughter of a family friend which I was looking forward to going to.

I even bought a  new outfit and have booked to get my hair and makeup done for the wedding.

Now I found out that I have been sat at the same table as my sister-in-law who I hate.

I rang up my friend to ask if I can be moved but she said her parents are looking after the seating and they are putting families all together.

She got irritated with me when I pushed it saying I can’t bring my family problems into her wedding.

I don’t know if there is any point in me going to the wedding as the whole atmosphere will be ruined if we’re sitting at the same table.

My husband thinks I am over-reacting but then again he never sticks up for me when it comes to his sister.

Shall I still go?

Massi says, It is understandable that you want to avoid tension with your sister-in-law at this wedding that you have both been invited to. 

But the wedding is not about you or your sister. 

It is a celebration of two people getting married in the presence of their family and friends.

Try and put your personal grievances behind you just for one evening so that you can take part in the festivities and enjoy the wedding celebrations with the bride.