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School 'friend' is making my life hell
Dear Massi, I'm still in school and feel lonely even though I've got friends.
But there is a friend who always want her commands obeyed.
Every time I want to do something she screams out she'll ruin it' and it's really embarrassing.
But when she does not want to talk to me all my friend copy her. It's like she rules us at the moment.
Whenever she wants to go somewhere that's the only time we're allowed but when she says no' everyone says no'.
I want to tell her how much it hurts when they all stop talking to me and I get blanked. I go home in tears wondering how I can change.
When she wants something doing she'll ask me I do it.
I really want this to stop. What do I do?
Massi says, At most school there is a popular girl who always has to be the centre of attention.
In my opinion this comes from a sense of insecurity and inadequacy.
You seem like an intelligent girl who is aware this so called friend is manipulating others. You need to be aware this is a form of bullying.
I suggest you need to find some friends outside your shared circle for support when she is being horrible.
Secondly you will need to find the strength to say no' to her.
This will be the hard part because it will be like sticking your head in the lion's mouth and waiting for it to shut.
But you will feel better for it and it will be easier the second time and the third time.
Finally, if none of this works you may need to get an adult involved because bullying is wrong and it needs to be stopped. Good luck with it.
10:11am Wednesday 18th June 2008
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CommentPosted by: Zuly Shah, Colne on 4:49pm Thu 19 Jun 08
Sis
As Massi said - get yourself new friends. It's hard for you, but once you're away from this immature bunch, you'll appreciate what you've done. At the moment it's hard for you to see life outside of this bunch - you'll be surprised once you make the break out from that group. Once outside you'll see them for what they are - timewasters.
Sis
As Massi said - get yourself new friends. It's hard for you, but once you're away from this immature bunch, you'll appreciate what you've done. At the moment it's hard for you to see life outside of this bunch - you'll be surprised once you make the break out from that group. Once outside you'll see them for what they are - timewasters.
Posted by: S, Blackburn on 10:03pm Tue 1 Jul 08
I was in a similar situation when I was at school - nearly 9 years ago now... you need to be strong and stand up for yourself.
If they don't talk to you - so be it. Occupy yourself in other ways. start chatting to people out side that group nd you will make new friends. Some of the other's may follow you.
There are a lot of girls like this, usually making people take the wrong decisions. Be strong and tsand up for yourself- no one else will!
Hoep it goes well.
x
I was in a similar situation when I was at school - nearly 9 years ago now... you need to be strong and stand up for yourself.
If they don't talk to you - so be it. Occupy yourself in other ways. start chatting to people out side that group nd you will make new friends. Some of the other's may follow you.
There are a lot of girls like this, usually making people take the wrong decisions. Be strong and tsand up for yourself- no one else will!
Hoep it goes well.
x
Posted by: yas, America on 1:17pm Thu 3 Jul 08
I[italic] would get myself a new set of friends as well. You need to start networking and making you own set of friends. Girl, there are plenty of people who would be your friend and treat you properly.
Its a great thing, that you have realised you are not comfortable with this friend, so you need to keep her at bay ( away from you).
Be happy with yourself and you watch naturally you will attract lots of friends.
Never stick around to be abused , you ARE WORTH IT!![/italic]
I
would get myself a new set of friends as well. You need to start networking and making you own set of friends. Girl, there are plenty of people who would be your friend and treat you properly.
Its a great thing, that you have realised you are not comfortable with this friend, so you need to keep her at bay ( away from you).
Be happy with yourself and you watch naturally you will attract lots of friends.
Never stick around to be abused , you ARE WORTH IT!! Posted by: Ron on 11:35am Tue 29 Jul 08
Hi,
Great information for kids. Everybody needs friends either in school life or in college life. I was in the same situation too.
Ron
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Hi,
Great information for kids. Everybody needs friends either in school life or in college life. I was in the same situation too.
Ron
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http://www.clickiden
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