I'm too shy to ask him out (From Asian Image)
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I'm too shy to ask him out
1:10pm Sunday 12th February 2012 in Feeds By Massi
Dear Massi, I have met a guy at work. I really like him (you know the whole 'filmy' butterflies in the stomach but I'm not sure how to go about getting to know him.
I'm quite a shy girl and I'm not likely to just come out with it in front of my colleagues, so how do I go about getting to know him.
The thing is because he's a customer I don't know much about him. As well as this I'm not sure my family will accept us being together, IF he does have similar feelings to me.
He is Asian, but you know he's got to be Indian if we're Indian and Pakistani if we're Pakistani.
Massi Says, I think you may just have to bite the bullet and ask him about himself.
As you’ve said you know nothing about him and there is no point in making things really complicated before you know anything more. He may well have a girlfriend or a wife so it may be an academic point about whether your family would approve. You’ve said that you’re shy and that there is no one else who can help you out in this matter so if you really want to know more about him then you will have to ask him.
Perhaps if the opportunity arises ask for his mobile number and text him which can be less daunting than asking someone personal things outright. You need to find out more before you start worrying about other things.
Muslim says...
10:37pm Sun 12 Feb 12
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Then ask yourself, if you approach someone in a certain way (like dating), then how long would the relationship last for? If there is a shallow reason (i.e. looks alone, or something similar) - then ask yourself, will this relationship last? And what will be the outcome if this person hurts you?
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My main point is - be careful in your decisions. The reason why Marriage is special is because you discover each other throughout your life - the good and the bad, and you've promised each other that through the marriage agreement. Whereas dating people usually ends up in hurt, and the same way someone accepted your dating offer, they can do the exact same to someone else because there is no special binding agreement.
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So my advice would be that; Your modesty and shyness is a special and beautiful thing. So make your decisions wisely before making major life decisions (the story you mention is one of them), and if you submit to Guidance - then follow it well, because it will make your life easier and save you from future pain and hardship.
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And of His (God's) signs is that He created for you from yourselves partners that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought. (Quran 30:21)
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Peace :)