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He is ignoring my calls
Dear Massi, I am a girl from a small town who truly believes in love. One day this young handsome, polite guy bumped into me.
We started talking to each other and became quite fond of each other.
He gave me his number and then we spoke on the phone all night. He was being completely honest with me.
He asked me out and then we both started liking each other more.
He said he loves me but, then when I ring him now or text him he doesn't reply.
He's started to avoid me. We both live in different towns, so we find it hard to link up.
I would really like to spend the rest of my life with him and when we are talking to each other on the phone he says the same.
I've been trying to ring him like mad lately but he won't pick up.
I know that you are going to advise me to get over him. But true love only happens once. And be honest (this is to everyone reading this) when you've really like someone it is not easy getting over them.
I've cried over him loads too but, when i'm chatting to him he makes me feel really nice and I get this wonderful experience I enjoy because I know that i'm ugly and he makes me feel I'm not.
My friends ask me about him everyday but I can't even tell them that I've not spoken to him for ages. What shall I do?
Massy Says,
I think you need to wake up to the fact that you don't even know this guy that well if you have just been speaking on the phone on a few occasions-so how can you claim to love him?
And I don't think you are in love with him more the idea of him. True love involves caring about someone and not wanting to hurt them and I don't see much of that here.
When someone starts to avoid you it is a pretty clear message they are having second thoughts about getting involved. The best thing to do is arrange to see him and if he refuses I think you have your answer-it is time to move on because he has.
Someone who is avoiding you is not a person you want to spend the rest of your life with, take this as a reality check and have a good cry on a friends shoulder.
I doubt you are ugly we spend way too much time living up to ideas of perfection that are impossible to achieve, so enjoy your youth and realise feeling nice comes from how you feel about yourself not how someone else makes you feel.
Also it is time to tell you friends the truth-if you refuse to speak to them about him they probably know already.
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CommentPosted by: scruffy, asparagus on 12:03pm Sun 6 Jan 08
your fatuated with the thought of someone liking you, and this is why you think your in love with him.. Love happens in due course not on a few calls here or there or maybe the odd meeting now and again. Yeah you care about him but you will get over it. Dont down yourself over one bump in the road..
your fatuated with the thought of someone liking you, and this is why you think your in love with him.. Love happens in due course not on a few calls here or there or maybe the odd meeting now and again. Yeah you care about him but you will get over it. Dont down yourself over one bump in the road..
Posted by: Roxy on 10:13am Fri 11 Jan 08
when your at your most vulnerable it is easy to attach yourself to the first person who's nice to you, feelings are amplified and so is the hurt when they let you down. no one should be mystified as to how someone can anyone fall in love over the phone it can happen especially when you start feeling something you havent b4. but this isnt true love. dont lose hope though as there is a mr right for everyone. dont wish you had never met this guy, learn from this and try to move on. it will be hard but ul be a stronger person for it.
when your at your most vulnerable it is easy to attach yourself to the first person who's nice to you, feelings are amplified and so is the hurt when they let you down. no one should be mystified as to how someone can anyone fall in love over the phone it can happen especially when you start feeling something you havent b4. but this isnt true love. dont lose hope though as there is a mr right for everyone. dont wish you had never met this guy, learn from this and try to move on. it will be hard but ul be a stronger person for it.
Posted by: n.s, bburn on 12:57am Sun 13 Jan 08
at some point we're all in this same situation. all i can say is that you have to accept the fact that actions speak louder than words. i don't mean to be harsh but it's true. if the feeling was a two way thing then he would be in touch himself. please don't let him make your life a misery as time is a great healer and eventually you will start to remember him less. when you feel like calling him, switch your phone off for 5 minutes and that way you'll call him less.
at some point we're all in this same situation. all i can say is that you have to accept the fact that actions speak louder than words. i don't mean to be harsh but it's true. if the feeling was a two way thing then he would be in touch himself. please don't let him make your life a misery as time is a great healer and eventually you will start to remember him less. when you feel like calling him, switch your phone off for 5 minutes and that way you'll call him less.
Posted by: Anon on 10:57pm Tue 12 Feb 08
[quote][bold]Roxy[/bold] wrote:
when your at your most vulnerable it is easy to attach yourself to the first person who's nice to you, feelings are amplified and so is the hurt when they let you down. no one should be mystified as to how someone can anyone fall in love over the phone it can happen especially when you start feeling something you havent b4. but this isnt true love. dont lose hope though as there is a mr right for everyone. dont wish you had never met this guy, learn from this and try to move on. it will be hard but ul be a stronger person for it.[/quote] Great advice - way better than Massi's.
Roxy wrote:
when your at your most vulnerable it is easy to attach yourself to the first person who's nice to you, feelings are amplified and so is the hurt when they let you down. no one should be mystified as to how someone can anyone fall in love over the phone it can happen especially when you start feeling something you havent b4. but this isnt true love. dont lose hope though as there is a mr right for everyone. dont wish you had never met this guy, learn from this and try to move on. it will be hard but ul be a stronger person for it.
Great advice - way better than Massi's.
Posted by: Roxy on 3:05pm Fri 15 Feb 08
thanx anon! im secretly after her job!!
thanx anon! im secretly after her job!!
Posted by: Brother Babu, Blackburn on 7:40pm Fri 28 Mar 08
What a wonderful story... the guy probably bumped into someone else and fell in love. Ive just got one question for Massi, recently i heard asian image the dear massi section was making stories up, is this one of your made up fairy tale stories.
What a wonderful story... the guy probably bumped into someone else and fell in love. Ive just got one question for Massi, recently i heard asian image the dear massi section was making stories up, is this one of your made up fairy tale stories.
Posted by: Director of Asian Image, Asian Image Office on 7:49pm Fri 28 Mar 08
Zubaida Massi (thats dear massi real name) how many times do i have to tell you make realistic stories not crap like this, this is the last warning your getting, anymore stories like these and your sacked.
Zubaida Massi (thats dear massi real name) how many times do i have to tell you make realistic stories not crap like this, this is the last warning your getting, anymore stories like these and your sacked.
Posted by: Massa, massi house on 7:05pm Sat 5 Apr 08
Taro Ba Director do not dissing my wife! Zubaida my bayree not making stories, this things happen in bollywood everyday. I warn you now anymore sit to my lovely zubaida and il come break your totya!
Taro Ba Director do not dissing my wife! Zubaida my bayree not making stories, this things happen in bollywood everyday. I warn you now anymore sit to my lovely zubaida and il come break your totya!
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