Arguments are tearing family apart (From Asian Image)

Arguments are tearing family apart

3:27pm Wednesday 6th January 2010

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Dear Massi, We are a traditional family with parents who have brought us all up in every way that I'm proud of what I am today.

My parents are old and we are 6 brothers and sisters and they are at a stage that they could pass away due to their health.

But the situation is that when were all together they fight my dad and that but they should grow up rather than showing our parents that we can stick together I don’t think that’s going to happen.

Due to family feuds I know I'm not good when it is to explain anything but I'm sure you get the picture that if they can't be nice to each other don't be nasty.

I really know that if Allah forbids what are they going to do when the parents aren’t around.

When parents are around no matter what they keep the kids together they deal with things and sort it when are they gone grow up.

We are grieving at the moment every person but it’s not going to be solved by arguing. Anon Massi Says, If I understand correctly you are telling me that when you and your brothers and sisters get together there is tension between them and your parents and this is causing them to argue and fight, particularly your dad and siblings?

Well, it doesn’t sound like much fun at your house when you guys get together. What should be a happy family time seems to become something which you clearly dread.

If your brothers and sisters have issues they want to discuss with your parents then this needs to be done in a calm, respectful way which does not upset your parents unnecessarily.

If you can speak with your brothers and sisters and try to make them see what is happening and that things can be discussed differently.

Tell them what you have told me, that your parents are old and infirm and that you should be cherishing the time you spend with them rather than bickering over petty things, none of which matter when the people you love are no longer with you.

I hope you can speak with your brothers and sisters and make them understand that the time we have with our loved ones is so very limited and arguing will only waste precious moments with them and will eventually lead to regret that we were not able to cherish them when they were with us.

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