I do not want to get married (From Asian Image)

I do not want to get married

1:00pm Thursday 17th December 2009

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Dear Massi, I am twenty years old and studying at uni, my parents want me to get married to a man from India.

I don’t want to get married to him because I don’t think he is the right person for me. The thing is my parents want me to get married early next year and I don’t actually have the guts to say no to my parents. What should I do?

If they tell me to leave the house I don’t mind doing that but I will not know where to go.

Do you know any support that I will be able to receive at this age as I would be willing to leave my house and move out.

May the Lord reward you for your efforts. M.

Massi Says, Whenever I get of letter like this I have one bit of advice - 'It is your life and you do not have to get married to anyone you don’t want too'.

I also urge all of those in such a situation to talk to your parents and family.

Situations like this quickly become an ‘us and them’ thing. They don’t need to be of the people remain reasonble.

I think most parents in our community are reasonable and look out for the welfare of their children. Contrary to what is reported most parents DO listen.

I don’t think leaving home will achieve anything.

If they still disagree then you should continue to tell them that this is your life and your future. Some parents can be unreasonable and put their own feelings before that of their children. But this can and will change.

Parents need to realise - their children want to please them and hide their own feelings sometimes.

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