Our relationship is not what it used to be (From Asian Image)

Our relationship is not what it used to be

12:08pm Monday 12th October 2009

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Dear Massi, I’m 22 and I’ve been with this guy for five years.

At first things where fab, he constantly made me feel good, and gave me plenty of compliments and made sure i was happy.

He was really sweet and generous, showering me with gifts and surprises. for the past 2 years its all gone down hill. I crave for his attention and I have spoken to him about it.

He says he'll change and things will get better and they do for a few days then its back to square one.

It just seems as though he's not interested in me anymore, and when I raise the issue he says and tells me he loves me very much and would do anything for me.

I don't understand what I'm suppose to do.

I’ve left him a number of occasions due to this matter.

We have discussed marriage previously and whenever I suggest or tell him that I'm going to come clean to my family about him, he makes up excuses that now's not the time, and to give it a few months.

At the same time I'm not sure weather I want to spend the rest of my life with someone who isn't going to be there for me. He seems so distracted.

I don't want to be in a marriage waiting for my husband to show me some attention.

What do i do? walk away? I do love him but his attitude it seems that the love and spark is dying out.. B Massi Says, I think you certainly have issues that need to be addressed. But I sense both of you have given up on the relationship.

Marrying someone who isn’t showing you much attention may well end in further heartbreak.

I suggest you give him an ultimatum and if he wants to marry you - he will do it. If not then you have got your answer. Sometimes relationships go through phases. It all depends how much you love each other.

At this stage it seems you are simply going through the motions and the spark you felt at the beginning has gone. If you don’t feel anything now then imagine how you might feel after ten years of marriage?

I think just by contacting me you have kind of answered your own question and know exactly what to do. Be honest to yourself.

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