He wants me to move out (From Asian Image)

He wants me to move out

11:52am Monday 12th October 2009

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Dear Massi, My life is in such a mess. I have been married for six years and during that time me and my husband have had our ups and downs.

Last year he came home drunk and then told me he had been seeing someone else for two years.

After which he left. He returned and we got back together but I could not forgive him. He then went to Morocco for some months. I then heard he was looking to get married to a younger woman.

I tried to contact him but couldn’t. He has come back to the UK his family are backing me because they realise he has done wrong.

Now, he wants a divorce and wants to marry this other woman from abroad. He is in his forties. He also wants the house and says I should move back to my mum’s with the children.

He wants to sell the house so he can move back abroad to be with his new woman. To make matter worse someone close to me died some months back. I have also put on so much weight.

I am so depressed the last year has been too much too take. T.

Massi Says,You could say your husband has had a mid-life crisis - but on what you have told me I think it is much more than that.

He has been very selfish and I think you need some time to recollect your thoughts.

To suggest you move out of the house is totally unaaceptable. It is one thing wanting to get married to a younger woman and it is another thing uprooting your wife and kids.

I know all these things have happened very quickly but you must remember you have rights too and the home is also yours. I suggest you talk to those people in your family and his who have supported you. I think his family have a responsibility to make him understand that what he is doing is wrong.

If he wants to continue acting so selfishly I think you should get some legal advice. It is not easy when things like this happen but you cannot let the acts of a selfish inconsiderate man defeat you.

I also think you should tell your GP about what has happened...especially since you hve lost someone close to you.

Depression is not something to be taken lightly.

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