I'm in love with someone else now (From Asian Image)

I'm in love with someone else now

8:36pm Sunday 19th April 2009

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Dear Massi I am getting married soon but I am in love with someone else.

The guy that I am meant to marry is of my own choice and I have known him for a few years but he has changed since we decided to marry.

I have met the most amazing guy that I know will keep me happy for the rest of life.

We have been dating since a friend introduced us as we became very close.

He knew from the start that I was going to get married but we became really close and have now fallen in love.

We have recently stopped seeing each other but I miss him a lot. I would love to marry him but I am scared of breaking the news to my parents.

Anon.

Massi says, It seems like you are not ready for marriage otherwise you would not have entered into another relationship whilst you are engaged to be married to someone else.

If you are really in love with this other man you need to end your engagement as you are cheating on someone who you have made a decision to marry and therefore love, cherish and be faithful to.

If you cannot maintain your fidelity whilst engaged to your fiancé then this is a recipe for a disastrous marriage. If you marry your fiancé, still loving another man, then there will most certainly be three very unhappy people whose lives and loves will remain unfulfilled.

It certainly seems like you have made your choice and now need to get up the courage to let the people in your life know what is happening.

You need to speak with the man you are seeing and make sure that he feels the same way and that he does actually want to be in a long term relationship with you because if you end your engagement and speak with your parents then there will be no going back so be absolutely sure that you are doing the right thing.

Make sure your feelings for this man are real and not just pre-wedding jitters because any step you take will affect your relationships not only with the men in your life but also with your family.

I will tell you that if you should choose to end your engagement there will be a lot of hurt and upset however if you really cannot see yourself with your fiancé then you should speak to your parents sooner rather than later as it will only become more difficult as your wedding draws closer. Your parents will be very upset with you but they are your parents and it is best to be open and honest with them.

Try to get another family member or family friend on your side which will give you some support when you discuss this with your parents. I wish you the best of luck and hope that you manage to resolve your problem.

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