He can't tell parents about us (From Asian Image)

He can't tell parents about us

8:34pm Sunday 19th April 2009

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Dear Massi, Me and my partner love each other very much but he is having trouble telling his parents about me.

I dont have any family to support me. I chose to leave my parents house as they were forcing me to get married.

His family also want him to get married back home. We are both in a positon where we are ready to commit I just dont know how to go about it please help Massi.

Confused.

Massi says, You have one life and you need to do what makes you happy, that is not to say that you should wilfully try to hurt those close to you but what is the point in doing things for other people’s happiness and spending the rest of your own lives miserable.

You and your husband to be need to discuss how you are going to break the news to his family, yes it will be hard but if he does love you then he will have to let his parents know about his feelings for you.

If he goes along with his parents wishes and marries someone else, still loving you, then he will be cheating some poor girl from back home who deserves better. Your problem could be resolved very easily, you guys could elope and marry against his parents wishes but it sounds like you want their blessings so you will have to tell them everything and hope for their understanding and support.

If you guys truly want to be together then you will have to make this tough decision which may end up alienating his parents and causing their relationship to break down so be prepared for the fallout. He needs to decide whether his own happiness is worth upsetting his family for and whether he loves you enough to give that up for you.

Is there some member of his family who will be able to support you guys in this? Try to find out if they will speak on your behalf and will be able to explain to his parents of both your feelings, if so make it clear to them that you are in a committed relationship and want to make things legitimate by getting married.

It may be that once your personal circumstances are explained to his parents that they may view you more favourably but then again they may not. If you are determined to be together then let people know how you feel and what your intentions are and take it from there. Good Luck. Hope you have the courage to see things through.

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