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Life is better over there
10:29am Tuesday 10th March 2009
Dear Massi, I have only been in the country for a year but during that time my husband has changed so much.
When I got married I thought I was going to better standard of living but my husband and all his family live in a two bedroomed house.
Back in Pakistan I had maids. I hate having to do all the work. My husband’s family made out they were really rich when I was getting married but the UK has been one big shock.
I want to go abroad and miss my family.
L.
Massy Says, Sounds like the honeymoon period is over and reality has set in and to be fair he should never made you promises he couldn't keep.
I think you hate the situation and have grown to dislike your husband as a result.
Talk to him about the things you want, don't keep telling him you want to go back home he will only switch off and stop listening.
Be constructive. You could get your own place and do your best to get him to commit to a date to move. No matter what happens you won't be getting any maids here.
If he's intent on staying put and not changing his ways then go back, you only live once and there's no point wasting your life being miserable.
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ZulyShah, Barnoldswick says...
12:38am Fri 13 Mar 09
I think both sets of parents are to blame. Massi, I think the husband probably can't afford to live elsewhere. I disagree with you making him commit to a move out date. It's going to put him under more pressure. I think this girl needs her expectations to be managed. I think both boy and girl were incorrectly sold the idea of marriage. Both of them should save up to move out or get a pad on DSS somehow.
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Wikidi, Accrington says...
12:45pm Tue 10 Mar 09
If a person goes to Pakistan, India, Bangladesh the people in a way start selling the girls over there so that you get married to them and then it is you who takes her/him to England, Spain etc.
Visa seeking girl. This is what all you freshies want at the end of the day!!!!
Some sought of joke like this has to be started to escape with the passport.
I would say if the government allows spouses from abroad they are supposed to be sent back without their visa's if they are divorced.