I don't think we can be together (From Asian Image)

I don't think we can be together

10:23am Tuesday 10th March 2009

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Dear Massi, I have met someone at work and she is a wonderful person. The problem is she is Muslim and I am Jewish.

We have known each other for five years and we are both have very similar outlooks to life. We have not dated but we do love spending time with one another whenever we can. We both come very conservative backgrounds.

Our families are very similar and we always end-up talking about how things are very much the same.

She is the sweetest and most beautiful person I have met. Although I am open minded and want to ask her about what our future holds but I am well aware the relationship can never happen.

She holds strong feelings for me and I for her but we have come to the conclusion that life is not possible together. I just think she would be labelled as someone who married a ‘Jew’ and I don’t want to put her through it.

My life would never be the same too and I can envisage issues arising within my own family. We are a very close family.

We decided after much thought we should not have contact with one another. But after a few weeks we were back in touch. I have now decided I have to leave my job altogether.

I am planning to do so soon and haven’t told her. I am so confused as to what to do.

ANON.

Massi says, I think it is very noble of you to share your feelings with readers of this newspaper.

But I would be giving you the wrong advice if I said things are going to turn out perfect. Some might say this situation can only be resolved with one of you having to sacrifice their love for the other.

Sometimes religion and culture can bring people together or sometimes they can tear people apart. The most important thing you can do is tell this woman how you feel and don’t just disappear. I think she deserves more than that.

If you sense that one way or another you can be together then I would pursue this. Maybe your family’s will understand that sometimes love can break through all boundaries. I would not simply think that things will all end in misery.

It might be an idea to speaking to someone in your extended family or someone in hers. That way you will; be able to find out how things will be percieved and accepted.

It is so wonderful of you to think about this woman’s welfare before your own. And by doing so you have proved how much you do care for her.

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