She won't keep her mouth shut (From Asian Image)

She won't keep her mouth shut

1:56pm Tuesday 10th February 2009

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Dear Massi, I have been married for over two years now. My wife does not speak openly with me on small domestic issues which she feels is not correct in our home.

We live in our own home, away from my parents so we have our own space. We only have small domestic issues and I treat my wife very well in all aspects of shopping, travelling, meeting her relatives and enjoying life etc.

I love my wife and and so does my family. I never involve my parents or family members in domestic issues where I have concerns. I always resolve domestic issues which I have directly with my wife.

However, in a number of scenarios, situations and any domestic issues which she may have, my wife always discusses things with her family members first. This information is then channelled across to me without knowing from her family members.

I am a very fair person and neutral and respect my wife 100% but I feel the trust is constantly being broken off from her each time.

Muslim Bro.

Massi says, You need to talk to your wife. If you don't tell her how will she know she's hurting you-after all she isn't psychic.

When you talk to her try not to get angry. Just explain to her what you have written here, that her discussing things with other people is not fair on you.

She needs to learn to channel her thoughts across to you as not doing so can be a very unhealthy thing for any relationship.

I know men are not renowned for their listening skills but be patient and let her have her say.

If she can't see what she does is damaging your relationship too it might be worthwhile speaking to a friend or relative she trusts. She may be more likely to listen to them.

Either way this might not seem like a major point for her but she needs to understand that this is affecting you.

But bear in mind women always discuss things with other women, it's just the way they deal with things.

So don't expect her to stop discussing the matters completely.

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