Parents lied to get me married (From Asian Image)

Parents lied to get me married

4:45pm Friday 12th December 2008

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Dear Massi, I ran from home when I was 17 and ended up in a women’s refuge.

I returned home because I heard false rumours saying my dad was in hospital. As a result my parents tricked me into getting married.

Later my in-laws told my parents that I don’t do the housework - at the time I was pregnant. They were abusive towards me. I told my parents but they would not listen.

I now have four kids and am unhappy. All my husband wants to do is save and he makes me pay all the bills and rent which is not going to happen. I have tried to forget the past but he still mentally and physically tortures me.

Am really sick of everything. My parents admit they did wrong but it is too late now.

Y Massi Says, I understand that you are in a difficult position but you need to take control of your life,.

Your parents and husband have been making all your decisions for you or in some cases forcing decisions upon you. Your parents made a mistake and they cannot or do not want to see how unhappy you are.

So you have to make a decision, you can you keep living like this with emotional blackmail and threats against you, some of which are illegal and you are well within your rights to go the police, or you can change.

It seeems your husband doesn’t want to change because the current situation suits him so I think you only have few options left which you need to think about.

These are difficult choices and it seems that your parents will not support you.

You will need the help of other family and friends.

For the sake of your sanity and children’s welfare contact a woman’s shelter and get their advice.

Once you take the first step the next will be easier and eventually your parents will realise you made the right decision.

Your parents should not have forced you into the marriage-they were wrong and your letter makes it clear you are angry at them and the way they used culture and/or religion to justify their behaviour.

Also try and get some counselling via your GP to help deal with what has happened.

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