My wife wants to send money abroad (From Asian Image)

My wife wants to send money abroad

4:30pm Tuesday 16th December 2008

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Dear Massi, I have been married for four years now. I went to abroad and like some Pakistani's I married a close family member.

Everything was fine at first, when she first came here to the U.K. But over the past year all she talks about is how she wants me to send money back home to her family.

When I married her I didn’t think I was marrying her family. The worst thing is she has told the neighbourhood that I am having an affair, now everyone thinks I’m the bad one.

She has driven me away from her and she watches my every move. My family are sick of her as well.

She tries to run my life and my family think that I do what ever she says.

Please Massi help me I don’t know what to do. I’m torn between my life and my wife and my family.

D Massi Says, When you married her who did you really think you were marrying, just her?

Wake-up and smell the roses; any close family marriage is a union of those families and I shouldn’t need to tell you that.

If you don’t want to send money back to them tell her to get a job and send her own money. thn she’ll know how hard it is to earn it.

I simply think it is time you acted a little more assertively. And by that I mean just stand your ground.

If she carries on spreading lies about then you should tell your family and everyone else the truth.

Those friends and relatives who know you won’t believe the lies. And those that do then you can’t do anything about them.

If in the end this is all about some money then I think you can work through it by laying down some rules about what is said in public.

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