Friendship is falling apart (From Asian Image)

Friendship is falling apart

2:24pm Wednesday 26th November 2008

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Dear Massi, I’m 20 years old I hope you can help me. I have a best friend and we have never had an arguement until now She would text me 2-3 times every week. Even though I would text only once or twice. I told her it doesn’t mater who texts first.

I've just started university and she just recently got anew job. She once said to me, ''You do know that when you start university, we will meet less often ''. And I said to her, "At university I will get busy but i'l try my best to meet up as often. (this was around September time).

When I got a job...we also had an argument about how much each of us gets paid.

Gradually she cut down on her texts and now only texts me once twice in two weeks. However she does mention in the text that we must meet up..

Maybe im just worrying for nothing... but I do feel there is distance I our friendship. it is a natural thing that when anyone starts university/school, they make new friends but they dont always forget about the old friends.

By the way there is another question, is it true that if someone you know, never ever compliments you.. are they jealous? or what is it.?

I mean I always compliment my friends, especially my best friend, but I have never ever received a compliment from her.

Massi says, As we move in life it is important to make sure we bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle to keep us in touch with the world and what is happening.

I think it is admirable that you want to and are keeping up contact with your friend although you live different lives.

Sometimes friends can feel inadequate when they see their peers doing well and it can affect their behaviour. But as she is important to you I suggest you not make a big deal of it yet. It might have been an off-hand comment with no malice or bad feeling behind it and you could be reading too much into it.

If it continues then I would bring it up and speak to her about it to clear the air.

Just because she doesn't text you all the time doesn't mean you are no longer friends. I have not spoken to some of my closest friends for years because they live across the world but I know when I see them it will be like we have never been apart.

With regards to the compliments you seem to be a little vain to me, if you feel good inside you don't need compliments, though I do understand it is nice to have them. Some friends just don't think like that and you have to accept this.

If you are worried about what you look like ask them something like I think this dress/top/colour suits me don't you? This might be the way around it.

If they don't say anything nice then maybe you should do something about it. Bear in mind you are all young and need to develop your own sense of style and personalities and this takes time.

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