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He is the one who left her!

3:13pm Monday 7th April 2008

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Dear Massi, My friend was going to get married but they called it off.

Now, through an introduction I met someone and our families have agreed to the marriage.

The problem is I have found out the man I am due to get engaged with is the man who left my friend!

My friend keeps asking who the mystery man is and I keep avoiding the answer.

What can I do?.

Massi says, It all depends how much you value your friendship.

To be truthful if this is a good friend then it may cause problems in the future. I suggest you tell your friend and also tell your family.

You don't say whether your man' knows that this other woman is your friend.

If your friend is willing to forgive this man and not make a big deal out of it then you have nothing to worry about. But if not then the choice is yours...

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Desi, Oswaldtwistle says...
4:33pm Fri 11 Apr 08

Just go for it! If your friend values your friendship she should respect your decision.

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Dave Batista, Washington DC says...
5:46pm Sat 12 Apr 08

Just make sure you don't branded as "egotistical" from your friend. Respect is everything.

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Wassup, Bolton says...
2:30pm Fri 18 Apr 08

Why are you stressing for? Friends come and go, if anything you should annoy your friend by kissing your fiance in front of her and pinching his bum.

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Khan, Burnley says...
4:59pm Tue 22 Apr 08

Desi wrote:
Just go for it! If your friend values your friendship she should respect your decision.
Woa, don't rush into anything. Discuss with friend, convince her that you did not have any designs on her man when your friend was interested in him. As Massi said, you have to speak with the guy to make sure that he isn't getting in with you to spite your friend. You need friends, especially to help you through any bad times. Don't do anything rash to lose her friendship. Maybe she knows something about him which you dont, maybe worth comparing notes before going ahead with the marriage. But if she is spiteful she may make up bad things to say about him. Tread carefully.

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saima, says...
6:10pm Thu 1 May 08

Khan wrote:
Desi wrote: Just go for it! If your friend values your friendship she should respect your decision.
Woa, don\'t rush into anything. Discuss with friend, convince her that you did not have any designs on her man when your friend was interested in him. As Massi said, you have to speak with the guy to make sure that he isn\'t getting in with you to spite your friend. You need friends, especially to help you through any bad times. Don\'t do anything rash to lose her friendship. Maybe she knows something about him which you dont, maybe worth comparing notes before going ahead with the marriage. But if she is spiteful she may make up bad things to say about him. Tread carefully.
But if she is spiteful she may make up bad things to say about him. Tread carefully...


this bit khan wrote...

i think she should first ask if theres any thing wrong with him...then say he is the guy you are marrying

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imran, oldham says...
4:25pm Wed 25 Jun 08

DON'T DO IT !, your gonna marry this guy, then after a short while he is gonna get it on with your mate...for real...then you gonna be left cold.

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Hero No. 1, Burmingham says...
4:26pm Fri 27 Jun 08

imran wrote:
DON'T DO IT !, your gonna marry this guy, then after a short while he is gonna get it on with your mate...for real...then you gonna be left cold.
Let me be your hero on this one.... i totally agree with Imran from oldham i wouldn't trust this guy especially if he's had a relationship with ur friend before.. he may miss the good ol' times ;-) and you know wink wink

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Muslim Brother, Bradford says...
9:04pm Thu 14 Aug 08

Why dont you and you friend both Marry him. It is fine under Islamic law and you can call be happy. You wives will both get on as you are already friends and you both like the guy. No problems everyone is happy. Islam rules live it and love it.

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safreena, leeds says...
3:59pm Fri 12 Sep 08

i think u should marry him coze if ur friend is a true friend she would understand the situation and would support u.

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Noni, Dewsbury says...
3:54pm Tue 30 Sep 08

It doesnt matter about what your friend will think! It matters about how you feel! Your friend was not married to him and you have nothing to do with her weddin being called off. So dnt think whats your friend gona think or hows she gona react. Wil u personaly feel comfortable with havin him as your husband and your mate comin over for a visit and u wnt even trust them 2leave them on their own whilst yu go in the kitchen 2make tea???! He myt tel her he wntd 2mary her bt cudnt de 2family or somat n then U myt start feelin insecure. Maybe few years down the line your friend and that guy might be writing to Massi sayin their married and have kids but cant get over each other!!!

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Noni, Dewsbury says...
3:56pm Tue 30 Sep 08

Muslim Brother wrote:
Why dont you and you friend both Marry him. It is fine under Islamic law and you can call be happy. You wives will both get on as you are already friends and you both like the guy. No problems everyone is happy. Islam rules live it and love it.
And ppl lyk u so-called muslim brother- tum jaise log islam ko badnaam karte hain. Shame on u!

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