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He won't leave me alone

11:15am Friday 25th January 2008

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Dear Massi, I went out with this guy for a couple of weeks and now he won't leave me alone.

We never even had a relationship of any sort but he seems to be under the impression that I told him we would get married.

At first I thought he was just being childish and things would stop but things have got really bad over the Christmas period.

He's knocked on my door and introduced himself to my and mum. He pretended to be a friend of my brother's. He also went to the mosque and has started talking to my dad.He didn't say anything but he keeps texting and ringing and telling me that he knows these things about me and will not tell my dad next time he sees him.

I have tried speaking to his friends but they just laugh it off.

What can I do?

MASSI SAYS, He comes accross as being very immature and childish and should know better.

I suggest you talk to your parents and explain the situation, before it gets out of hand.

Also try talking to him and explaining if there was any future that he's just wrecked it all.

Tell him he needs to stop spreading malicious rumours, otherwise you will take it further and tell his family.

Once he knows you have told your family the situation I am sure he will stop bothering you.

If he still does not then you can tell the police. They do take the matter seriously.

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Chaz76, Manchester says...
11:21am Mon 28 Jan 08

With all due respects Massi. I don't think the girl should tell her parents everything. Look her dad is a mosque regular. There's no way he'll face up to the fact that his daughter "goes out" with boys. He may try getting her married off quickly - possibly to someone she doesn't want. She should tell the family that she is being harassed by a boy and leave it at that. She should also be telling her parents what kind of boy she needs to be married to, so that they are activated. The sooner she is "fixed up" with someone of her choice the better it is for all.

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saba, manchester says...
11:47am Thu 31 Jan 08

Get a life u guys who think u can make comments about who has to keep who's legs shut. U guys are probably at it with anything u can get but ur always the first to talk when someone else has a problem.

Do u know if this girl has slept with this guyquote can u lot not read what she wrote. did she say she slept with him?

The guy is the one with the problem, but Oh no, never blame the guys... right arent i. i mean it mustve been the girls fault, hmmmm, obviously typical bad boy asian mentality... grow up

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Badmashh, your house says...
9:18pm Thu 6 Mar 08

Is this guy from Lancaster by any chance???

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mushtaqsaab, Shottingham says...
2:39pm Fri 7 Mar 08

saba y u lie 4??? r u from old trafford? i think i know u hunny, but neways i think the guy is a birt crazy but if u saw him for a couple of weeks then there must have been some sort of relationship however can i have ur number???

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saba, manchester says...
4:04pm Mon 17 Mar 08

Mr Mustaqsaab.. u dont know me hunny. im not from old trafford for ur record. What am i lying about? the fact that u guys do whatever u want then point at us girls for going out with someone is hypocrisy.

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raz, says...
2:06am Sat 29 Mar 08

both of u b quiet. girlz and boyz shouldnt hav ne relationships b4 marriage.!!!! problem solved

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mushtaaqsab, shottingham says...
1:13pm Wed 2 Apr 08

saba it aint hypocrisy,i agree wi was u sayin bt u cnt say all guys get in on wi netin.y u lie 4?

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sadia, blackburn says...
10:50am Wed 9 Apr 08

Saba you are daft, who is even attacking girls right to have same priviledges as asian boys on this page? I cant see it and I am an asian girl too who believes in equality and have been out with many guys in the past and played around. So I am all for your arguement if you actually had a point -you are making an arguement out of nothing and it makes me mad when these good points are not used intelligently. Stop banging your head against a wall for no reason. Stop hating. I am all for intelligent debate but disagree with an arguement just for the sake of it even when nobody is even arguing or disagreeing with you on this page. Your over-zealous defending of a non existent arguement is annoying! I am not denying equality amongst ethnic sexes is a problem it just has not been mentioned in the comments thread.

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Jesse, The A-T-L says...
3:40pm Sun 13 Apr 08

raz wrote:
both of u b quiet. girlz and boyz shouldnt hav ne relationships b4 marriage.!!!! problem solved
Well said raz. A question for the the girl itself: Do you give a crap about dad if the people within the mosque found out? Gives your dad and possibly your family a bad name.

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al&renza, preston says...
1:09pm Thu 26 Jun 08

eloow!!! dis iz da 21st centuary...arrange marriges sumtymz becme a terrible disaster dey can b infulenc e by acts of violence n sexuall abuse evn if its within da family u nvca knw a persn till u live with them o travel with them!!!!
.......well ive been in da sme situation n e still wont leve meh alne i jus choose 2 ignre n blk hiz numbaz frm my cell netwrkz so e crnt rech meh n blk hm 4rm mah emaill accounts an myslf by havin freinds n family by mah side, gud lck. n blv meh dis guy evn tried 2 rape meh ano hw u feal. feal lost small trpped n co,mpelltlly nt in cntrl ov ur feelings n emotionzz

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jaz, uk says...
11:17am Tue 19 Aug 08

It is every human beings right to make choices and for other people to respect them. This girl doesn't like this man she suspeccted something early good job! she thought he was a nutter and she was right. Now if he had any respect for HIMSELF ans HIS FAmily he would back. If not she should tell her parents & get the to talk to his parent & tell them if he doesn't stop she will go to the police. She doesn't owe this many her life just cos she considered him Once as a potential partner. She needs support form the whole asian community to address THIS MANs problem because he is the problem. He would not want it for his sister so respect some elses sister

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