He is ignoring my calls

11:24am Saturday 5th January 2008

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Dear Massi, I am a girl from a small town who truly believes in love. One day this young handsome, polite guy bumped into me.

We started talking to each other and became quite fond of each other.

He gave me his number and then we spoke on the phone all night. He was being completely honest with me.

He asked me out and then we both started liking each other more.

He said he loves me but, then when I ring him now or text him he doesn't reply.

He's started to avoid me. We both live in different towns, so we find it hard to link up.

I would really like to spend the rest of my life with him and when we are talking to each other on the phone he says the same.

I've been trying to ring him like mad lately but he won't pick up.

I know that you are going to advise me to get over him. But true love only happens once. And be honest (this is to everyone reading this) when you've really like someone it is not easy getting over them.

I've cried over him loads too but, when i'm chatting to him he makes me feel really nice and I get this wonderful experience I enjoy because I know that i'm ugly and he makes me feel I'm not.

My friends ask me about him everyday but I can't even tell them that I've not spoken to him for ages. What shall I do?

Massy Says, I think you need to wake up to the fact that you don't even know this guy that well if you have just been speaking on the phone on a few occasions-so how can you claim to love him?

And I don't think you are in love with him more the idea of him. True love involves caring about someone and not wanting to hurt them and I don't see much of that here.

When someone starts to avoid you it is a pretty clear message they are having second thoughts about getting involved. The best thing to do is arrange to see him and if he refuses I think you have your answer-it is time to move on because he has.

Someone who is avoiding you is not a person you want to spend the rest of your life with, take this as a reality check and have a good cry on a friends shoulder.

I doubt you are ugly we spend way too much time living up to ideas of perfection that are impossible to achieve, so enjoy your youth and realise feeling nice comes from how you feel about yourself not how someone else makes you feel.

Also it is time to tell you friends the truth-if you refuse to speak to them about him they probably know already.