I've fallen for woman from work (From Asian Image)

I've fallen for woman from work

11:18am Thursday 22nd December 2011 in Dear Massi By Massi

Dear Massi, I think I may have fallen in love with someone from my office.

This is after working with her and becoming friends with her over the last year or so.

She makes me laugh and smile, and I look forward to seeing her every time I’m at work.

We talk all the time at work, joke around and discuss our daily problems every so often.

The problem I have is that I am too shy and I do not have the confidence to do anything about it.

I’ve thought about telling her many times, however I cannot bring myself together to tell her anything. In addition to this, I am from a traditional Muslim Indian family and from talking to her; I know she is from a traditional Muslim Pakistani family.

So even if I did talk to her and the feelings were mutual, I wouldn’t know what to do next.

Most recently, I’ve thought about leaving my job and going to work somewhere else, thinking that it may help me forget about her.

However, I couldn't bring myself to do this as I didn’t want to miss the opportunity of seeing her.

As you can see from my dilemma, I don’t know what to do right now.

I’m going on holiday and I am hoping this time apart and trip will help me clear my mind. Although, if I come back and I can’t then what do you think I should do next.

Massi Says, Firstly you need to find out if this girl feelsthe same way about you.

There is little point in taking matters further if your feelings aren’t reciprocated.

She may just see you as a friend and if you go declaring your love for her then this may serve only tpo embarrass you both.

On the other hand if she does have similar feeling for you then this could be the beginning of something good. Be warned though the very fact that you guys are different in terms of your ethnicity is going to be a major sticking point.

Both your families may well object to the difference in which case you will be left with another obstacle in your path.

If you truly like this girl, and it sounds to me like you do, then speak with her and find out if she feels the samee.

If she doesn’t, then yes you may feel bad but then al least you still have a friend with whom you get on really well.

Don’t do anything as drastic as leaving your job as in the current economic climate jobs are hard to find! The very best of luck.