She got me arrested but I still want to be with her (From Asian Image)

She got me arrested but I still want to be with her

10:40am Thursday 15th December 2011 in Dear Massi By Massi

Dear Massi, I am a male who is married but was having an extra marital relationship with a divorcee.

I was having problems in my marriage when I met this woman and she herself was going through a divorce.

What started as friendship turned into a sexual relationship and we became lovers.

I loved her so much that I wanted to marry her and was willing to divorce my wife.

My lover is almost 11 years older than me and has several health problems and has spent several times in hospital over the years we have been together.

When ever she was in hospital I used to donate money to charity for her well being and within days she used to be better.

Things were going well and we were both in love. However she never told her family about me and therefore her family came after me several times.

We had a massive argument early this year and the police became involved.

I was subsequently arrested.

Even after this we got back together and continued our relationship.

We then had another argument after eight weeks and as she never told her family we got back together her family got the police involved again.

She lied to her family about me and later on had me arrested again by lying to the police to protect her against her family. I know she lied to the police for the sake of her family.

The thing is despite having me arrested several times I still love her and want to be with her, she went through a nasty divorce and I want to give her the stability she needs in her life.

She has several health problems and this has never bothered me but made me realise that I want to care for her for life.

I used to massage her daily, her legs, back and even her feet as she used to be in such pains.

I am now going through a divorce myself and I want to tell her I love her and want to be with her but I'm not allowed to go anywhere near her as I will get arrested again.

I even thought of asking her cousins and family friends for help in getting her back and to speak to her family on my behalf but am worried they will get me arrested.

Now I heard her family are planning to get her married off again because they don't want the whole family knowing what she has done.

I love her and even promised her that she would be a queen in my eyes and that I will look after her, support her and care for her for life. Please help, I cant live without her as I love her more than anything.

I even tried killing myself because I can bear to live without her and I need to tell the whole world that I love this woman for who she is and that her health problems and financial problems does not bother me.

Massi says, Your situation sounds really complex.

I am sorry that you have felt that you need yo try to end your life and I would hope that having failed in this you will realise that this is a silly idea that solves nothing. I have to say that I do really feel for your poor wife who you’ve been cheating on for the past five years.

If you believe in karma then perhaps you may have a thought that because you are misusing someone’s trust this may be why this other secret relationship you have is such a mess.

I am really concerned that you appear to love your lover so much whilst she is not even willing to acknowledge your existence to her family and that you are getting a criminal record as a result.

You need to think about where this relationship is going as from where I am sitting I can see nothing but a mess. You need to end things with your wife first and then try and see where this relationship is going as you cannot continue to juggle things in this way. I do understand that you want to be with this woman but this is not the way to do it as you will end you hurting a whole lot of people. You want to be with her then do it properly; tell your wife and then speak with your girlfriend and tell her that you are serious and want to marry her. You will have to overcome the obstacle caused by her family and need to be realistic that it may not work out in which case you will have wasted five years of your life and cheated your poor wife for the same length of time. Good Luck.