He wants to get married again (From Asian Image)

He wants to get married again

12:04pm Friday 18th November 2011 in Dear Massi By Massi

Dear Massi, I have got myself into big mess and I don’t know what to do.

My husband wants to get married again abroad. And he keeps threatening me with it if I don’t do as he says. He says he has a full right to do this if he wants.

My family is sticking by me and say I should leave him if he decides to do this. But I don’t want to leave him. We have four kids and both are in our forties.

It has become a big talking point. The worse thing he goes and talks to his own relatives about and his friends and says he is going to get married as soon as he has some extra money.

His family are backing him and say it is my fault he is feeling like this. And it is me who has driven him away.

I’m so depressed all the time and my friends are worried about my health.

Massi Says, I am so sorry that you are in this position.

If the truth be told I think your husband is a very selfish and controlling man who is holding this over you to ensure that you do as he says.

It is obvious that he will not change as he has the support of his family and has no issues with speaking about this with his friends. Consider yourself lucky that your family are supportive and advising you to leave him.

He most likely thinks that he can continue to hold this over you as a threat.

If he really wants to get married he will do and nothing you say or do will have any impact but you can take your own decision and decide that you don’t want to spend the rest of your life with such a selfish individual.

Think about yourself and your children and how you will all feel if he goes through with his threat. He clearly doesn’t care about the impact of such a selfish act on his family.

Just because he can marry again doesn’t mean that he should.

Be honest with yourself and ask if you could continue to live with him knowing that he has married again. All the very best of luck.