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Friend has a shocking secret

3:20pm Friday 19th August 2011 in Dear Massi By Massi

Dear Massi, My friend has a shocking secret life.

While most people see her as a happily married woman with three children some of us have seen her dark secret life.

During the day she acts all normal and while her husband is away working at night she invites other men to her house to sleep with her while her kids are in bed.

I am so appalled by this but she doesn't think that she is doing anything wrong.

Her husband doesn't know what she does while he is away.

When she has dropped the kids off to mosque she drives these men to places that normal people don't know of in the countryside, while her baby is in the car.

I can't believe that she is so selfish for her own needs that she is putting her children’s safety at risk by inviting these men to her house.

Please help Massi, what should I do so that she stops this secret life?

Massi Says, It is really sad that she has to indulge in such seedy deeds but this is her life and she needs to realise that her actions will ultimately have consequences for her marriage and children.

It is worrying that she is meeting up with men in secluded places and that she is exposing her baby to such men. It is quite easy for us to take the moral high ground but we don’t know the reasons behind this behaviour. This is a matter for your friend to deal with and whilst by knowing this you feel you need to intervene, it is not your place to do so.

She is an adult and clearly knows what she is doing. I can only assume that she knows of your disapproval yet she is carrying on regardless. I would speak with her one last time and explain your fears and also point out to her that she is placing not only herself but her child in danger by meeting up with these men in the first place and that she needs to be a responsible parent and ensure that the children are not exposed to risk.

You can make a referral to Children’s Social Care if you feel that the children are at risk of harm and this would deal effectively with the matter.

I would explain to her your intention to do this if she does not change her behaviour but as I have said she is an adult and responsible for her actions but also for the safety of her children.