Dear Massi, My fiancé and his parents are pushing for us to get married before Ramadan. 

They're rushing it because his grandmother is really sick.

I'm just not ready. I don't mind getting married after Ramadan. 

My fiancé has never seen me without makeup on and I look totally different without my face made up.

If we're married before Ramadan, he'll see me at sehri time looking my worst.

I know it sounds vain, but I don't want him to see me like that.

Also, I was going to use the month of fasting to lose some weight before the wedding. 

I need to feel confident and beautiful on my wedding day, but my fiancé and his family are ruining my one special day for me.

I'm getting really worried and anxious. It's even keeping me up at night. 

I really badly need an excuse to delay the wedding.

Massi says, It seems you are more concerned with the wedding rather than with the marriage itself.

There is a very strong emotional reason why your fiancé and his family are pushing the wedding forward, yet you haven't shown any empathy.

If this matter is causing you such intense angst that it is keeping you awake at night, talk to your fiancé about your concerns.

Wearing makeup or weighing a few pounds less in weight is not the basis for a solid marriage. 

Your fiancé may well alleviate these concerns and reassure you they are only in your head and not his.

You are about to embark upon a life together.  You should be able to talk to each other about your personal concerns.