Dear Massi, My in-laws are so desperate to get their eldest son married.

He is 46-years-old. I understand why they are stressed out about this but it still doesn’t excuse what they did.

Me and my husband were going to my best friend’s wedding.

My in-laws knew we were going and they knew the venue. About an hour after we arrived, they turned up. The bride wasn’t even out at this stage.

It was so embarrassing. They had to be squashed onto a new table as everyone had designated seating so there were no spare seats.

That delayed the bride coming out.

My best friend’s parents were really annoyed but they didn’t say anything because they are my in-laws.

My in-laws spent the entire time watching any women who could potentially marry my brother-in-law and then talking to them and showing them a picture of their son.

My husband was mortified. How can I avoid this happening again?

Massi says: You and your husband were inadvertently put into a compromising position on account of your in-laws.

Whilst their actions may well have been over-zealous, they felt they were appropriate in their intentions.

This episode is now over so try not to let it upset you any further.

In future if you are going to a wedding or event where you fear they may turn up uninvited, you and your husband can speak to them in advance and suggest that you will keep a lookout for any potentials to save them from venturing out.