Dear Massi, I am arguing with my parents so much because they are being really unfair with me.

My brother is allowed to move out to university but I am not. My university is further away than his. His is only half an hour away from home! My parents say because he is a boy it is good for him to have that experience. 

But because I am girl, they say I am not allowed to move out not matter what my travelling distance. I hate that my brother is favoured just because he is a boy.

Is there something I can say to them to make them listen to me?

Massi Says: This is indeed a complex dilemma which appears to stem from cultural roots.

It is understandable that you are angry with your parents for taking this stance, however, try and understand the situation from their perspective.

They are only doing what they feel is right from a social and cultural perspective and out of concern for you.

Speak to your parents in a calm manner at an appropriate time and explain to your parents that you understand their feelings.

Tell them that they have brought you up very well and that they should have faith in that upbringing to know that you can be trusted to live away from home.

Suggest a trial basis and perhaps a timetable for when you will visit home so they feel reassured that they will see you regularly.