Dear Massi, I like my girlfriend a lot, but there is one side of her that really annoys me. 

She thinks she is more attractive because she has fair skin. She’s constantly comparing her skin colour to other women.

She thinks it’s a compliment if someone says she doesn’t look Asian. And she’s always asking people to guess where she is from.

If people think she is Arab, Italian, Greek or Spanish she gets really happy. But if someone thinks she is Asian, she gets really offended.

What shall I do?

Massi Says, It seems that you and your girlfriend have very little in common as you have spent the entire letter speaking about her ‘superficial’ qualities. 

If your girlfriend’s conversation levels bother you this much, then address them directly with her.

Reassure her that you find her attractive inside and out, no matter what the colour of her skin.

If you feel that her ‘obsession’ to talk about herself is dominating your relationship, perhaps it is time to question your future with her.