Dear Massi, I am in my thirties and have only been married for a few months.

My husband is very caring, he gives me enough space for me and my thoughts and values.

More than a husband he is a good friend, father, lover and boyfriend.

Suddenly a storm entered into my life which I could not share with my husband which is leading me to feel guilty and stress.  I was supposed to go to my grandma's home to take care of them for three days.

My uncle came from abroad to stay with his parents until they recovered. He is a doctor who is married with children.

He actually harassed me when I was only 14 and I didn't talk to him until my marriage.

He did say sorry. I ignored him. I don't meet him very often as he stays abroad.

This time he spoke to me nicely, saying sorry for what he has done. I said there was no need. In front of everyone he was asking about my marriage life in general.

I was innocently answering out of happiness that my husband is taking a lot of care of me and that I am so lucky to have him. On the same night my uncle crossed the limits by touching my private areas.

Fortunately I was wearing a tight dress.

I said please leave and stay away.

Then I was in deep sleep by having taking medicines for cold and flu. But he took my hands and asked me to press his private part.

I really felt bad and was upset and depressed and stated all you want is my body. I told him he can't have my heart which is only for my man. So then he left.

The very next day early morning I called my husband to take me home and told me not to leave alone in anybody's house. He thought I was being selfish by leaving my 80-year-old grandma and 50-year-old uncle.

But the thing is I feel like wood when I see my body. I have started hating myself.

Now I am on my way to see my parents and siblings.
Help me out- I am feeling guilty.

I am so conscious that I must dressed fully covered so I wear three dresses.

I can't look in the mirror..

I am so upset. I don't want to live. My mind is becoming weak.

Massi says, I am so sorry to hear about your awful ordeal.

The trauma you suffered as a child has now resurfaced in the most awful manner.

It is important for you to realise that this is not your fault, but this is the fault of your abuser who took advantage of your vulnerability when you were a child and again now.

You are now feeling tormented when you are not the guilty party.

You have been scarred by your uncle and it is time for you to take steps to heal yourself.

Speaking to a counsellor or a professional will help you channel that emotion in a constructive manner.

It is also important for you to speak to your husband and any family members that you can trust about what you have been subjected to.

You do not need to cope with this alone.

Remember, it was your uncle's behaviour that was unlawful, not yours.

It is natural that you feel confused and conflicted particularly as your abuser is a relative.

Self-blame, anger, guilt and fear are often a component too.

You now need someone to listen to you who can give you support.

You have survived this abuse and now you need to begin the path to healing and recovery.