Dear Massi, I want to get married. I feel like I’m running out of time. I am 40-years-old.
I want to do things that are natural for married people. And I want to have children.
But my mum keeps making me feel guilty about wanting to get married.
She says that if I get married, my wife will take me away from her.
My dad doesn’t get involved in any of these discussions as my mum doesn’t really let him speak anyway.
I don’t know what to say to my mum or what to do.
Massi says, It is only natural that you wish to become independent and pursue your own life.
Your mother’s fears about losing you may stem from an external catalyst, however, it has inadvertently placed an unfair burden on you.
Reassure your mother that getting married does not entail replacing one loved one with a new person.
Tell your mother that she will remain an integral part of your life even after marriage and that she should have faith in how she has brought you up and should feel secure of your bond.
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