Dear Massi,  I had an amazing wedding. My family spent a lot of money on it.

Everything was running fine until we left the hall.

Instead of going back to the hotel he made a stop at a local shisha bar.

He said he was desperate for a smoke. I was so angry. 

He left me in the car and him and his cousin who was driving the car went off for 45 minutes. 

I have barely spoken to him since. 

The honeymoon was a disaster. We didn’t even sit next to each other on the plane.

I feel the marriage is over before it even started and it’s all his fault.

What should my next step be?

Massi says, Your new husband appears to be oblivious to your feelings.

It is understandable that you are upset with his lack of consideration.

Rather than talking about the marriage being over, it is important that you articulate your feelings clearly and convey them to your husband. At this stage you both need to talk about what you want from this relationship.

Without communication, he may not be aware of the impact that his actions have had on you.

He needs to realise that he can't continue to act in this way. A wedding day was clearly no the time to abandon your partner so you could spend time in a shisha cafe.