Dear Massi, I am very embarrassed. I got married seven months ago, but we haven’t had the walima yet. 

It was delayed because my father-in-law wasn’t well.

I am pregnant now and showing quite visibly.

The walima will take place next month.

It’s going to be so embarrassing sitting there with the dupatta on my head with a big bump.

I have never been to a walima before where the bride is pregnant.

I really don’t want to go ahead with it and even spoke to my in-laws, but they said it’s a sunnah and they want to do it. The pictures will be so awkward too. What can I do?

Massi says: Being pregnant is a wonderful part of your life.
Rather than being embarrassed about it, you should celebrate and enjoy this time of your life.

Being pregnant during the walima event is not something you need to scrutinise this intently.

Although it is not conventional to hold the walima reception so many months after the wedding celebrations, it is nonetheless a valued tradition held by your in-laws.

Try not to worry abut how ‘awkward’ it will be as it is likely that only you are feeling this way and not the guests who will be attending.

Most people may not bother too much about it and if they do then they are simply finding a reason to make gossip.

Be positive and celebrate the day with your loved ones.