Dear Massi, I am going out with a girl and we have been together for some time.

When we are together we obviously have an intimate relationship but when I go too far she says it is ‘haram’ to go any further.

I respect her decisions but I cannot understand why she pretends to be religious but at the same time is happy doing things with me?

I am confused? She says she wants to wait until we get married but she is happy doing everything else with me? 

We haven’t even spoken of getting married. It is frustrating and I do pester her all the time to go further but she says 'no'.

Massi says, On the one hand you have said that you respect your girlfriend’s decision, yet on the other hand you admit that you do pester her.

If you are not completely interested in marrying your girlfriend whilst she is of the opinion that you will get married at some stage in the future, it is time for you to talk to her so that she is clear about this.

It is not your place to question your girlfriend’s religious stance in context of your physical relationship. It is simple- you must respect her boundaries. No means no!

I can't believe you would want this clarifying!

If your priority is to take things further whilst she continues to say 'no', it would be better for you to end the relationship.