Dear Massi, My brother is getting married soon. We are all really looking forward to it and I have had matching outfits made for me and my daughters.

We even practised a dance for the mehndi.

But now my brother's fiancee is saying she wants a strictly no children policy for her wedding.

They haven't even offered to pay for a babysitter.

She is really high maintenance and has already emailed me and my sister with a list of colours she doesn't want us wearing to any of the functions so it doesn't clash with her outfits.

She even asked us not to wear heels so she can look taller in the pictures.

I told my brother it is ridiculous if his nieces don't attend but he just says it's her wedding so her rules have to apply.

I am so angry. Do you think it will be bad if I just turn up with my kids anyway?

Massi Says,  It is understandable that you feel indignant and hurt that your children are not invited to your brother's wedding.

As upset as you are, try and understand it from your sister-in-law's perspective.

Couples spend many months meticulously planning their wedding and spend their savings on that one day.

In her opinion she is looking to have that one special day without any unprecedented disturbances. 

Understand that this restriction is not a personal attack and is not targeting you alone, but is a general rule for all guests.