'He said salam to his wife before his mum'

Dear Massi, We are having major problems in our house

Ever since my brother got married, it's been one thing after the other. 

My sister-in-law lives with us. 

My brother is always taking his wife out but never asks me or my mum if we want to come too.

He buys her little gifts but doesn't bother getting anything for us.

When she cooks food he makes a big deal about how tasty it is. When me or my mum cook food, he never compliments us.

Now when he comes home from work he goes straight to his room to see his wife before saying salam to my mum.

My mum is really upset about this. 

It's really disrespectful. 

When I spoke to him, he told me to stay out of it and that I was putting ideas in my mum's head.

Now he's barely talking to me. I don't know how to make him see sense.

Massi says, As difficult as it might be to let go, you must understand that there is a new person in your brother's life who deserves his attention.

Although you have described this as a 'major problem,' your brother's actions are not unusual for a newly married man, nor is he acting in this way to hurt you or your mother.

Rather than picking on these trivial matters, try and focus on the fact that your brother is happy.

If you continue to make issues out of your brother's actions, you risk distancing him from you and your mother.