Dear Massi, My friend has a big problem with alcohol.

We go out regularly and it normally ends with him drinking far too much and vomiting in places.

He sometimes gets violent towards people who are not Asian. 

When he is sober he is really good but this drinking is becoming an issue. I am his friend so don’t want to abandon him but this is testing my limits.

Recently, he took his clothes off and ran through the park at midnight. Some of the other friends found it funny but this is getting out of hand.

Massi Says, Your friend may not be aware that he has a drinking problem or that his behaviour becomes aggressive.

It is clearly difficult for you to watch your friend’s debilitating actions.

Talk to your friend about this tactfully, but choose your timing carefully. Don’t talk to him when he is intoxicated.

Ask him if he is experiencing any problems in his personal life.
Explain to him how his drinking is affecting his behaviour and how he is hurting himself.

Tell him also how his actions are hurting you as a friend.

Encourage your friend to get help through a GP and that you will support him.